Safety Zone
From today’s Daily Prompt; Witness Protection
I am, in many ways, an introvert (although not completely). I have a few people and family members in my tight little circle and don’t like to step outside of the “safety zone” of their comfort and the comfort of being with them.
I don’t like to try new things. Whether a food, going somewhere that is new, sitting in a different spot at the table (even), moving, relationships in my life… change is difficult for me, yet I am forced at times to try something new.
If I have to step out of my safe zone, it would always have to be with a loved one close by. I would never try bungee jumping, but when I have to try a new medical procedure, or even a new food (which is literally my beloved pleading with me forever to do so), I want him or one of my sisters or one of my few friends with me.
Change and risk just are not part of how I’m wired.
What about you?
I am much the same way. Change does not come easy for me, from what I eat, where I sit, to how I do my hair. If something works for me, I do it…over and over again. The only way I change, is when ‘forced’ to.
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🙂 I so hear you!
Thank you for sharing with me.
Easter
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Beautiful Photo ❤
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Thanks so much Leyla 🙂
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I could easily become a physical hermit. I could not give up my blogging and my Prayer Warrior ministry.
For me, change and risk are no longer a biggie. I put my hands in the hands of the One Who stilled my troubled waters.
My biggest secret I have kept silent for 45 years is that in my first marriage we had a child we gave away to an orphanage before we were married.
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I am glad that you are at peace with God and change. I am too, if I must, I must, I trust Him.
As for your decision so many years ago, it probably was the right one at the time. It is nothing to be ashamed of.
Here is another part of my story that has haunted me for life. http://easterellen.com/2013/05/06/1381/
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Wow! What a powerfully written story. Thanx for sharing – you are much stronger than I had thought. However, I had guessed your secret beforehand. (I don’t know how.)
(Abortion happens psychologically to men, too.)
Your writing skills are awesome!
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I am not strong, but by the grace of God.. but you know that already 😉
Thank you for the kind words.. as for my writing, I just write. Usually I start and it just flows.. I like to think that God is the one that takes over 🙂 We both know what an awesome author He is!
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Yeah Verily.
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🙂
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You should also read the post I put in last night called The Healing Place.. tells a bit more of my story.
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I just finished it.
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Ditto!
I am too uncomfortable to change anything in my life. I need to have someone by my side if I am changing something very important in my life.
Currently I am at a job, that I am very comfortable with. I had one pretty good opportunity, yet I couldn’t take it. It’s like moving out of something I am so used to. I try different food these days, few years back I was not even willing to do that.
Regards,
Fatima
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🙂 Funny how we can be so rigid in our comfort zone. I would not try new foods at all until I started to date my boyfriend four years ago. He has a strong way of coaxing me and pushing me to expand my limits. So far, food is about the only issue that he has gained any ground on, but the amazing world he has opened to me with food that I never thought I’d like, delights me!
🙂
Easter
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Yeah I agree, I too am glad I was forced to try different food, and widen the palette of my taste buds. It’s a whole new world. Like-way I am trying to loosen up a bit in many grounds. But Job, I am still not ready.
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In time, when you feel stagnant in your own position, you may be ready to try the next level. As you explore out of your comfort zone in baby steps in the “safer” areas of life, such as food, you will find that the courage to take a step out in a more difficult position will come also. 🙂
I say this from my own experience at work. Funny enough, after going up the ladder, I eventually realized that my first role, which was where I worked on my own, but just as lucrative as management, was my true love. Took me 7 years of trying different positions to realize that, but it was a good journey of learning and helped me to take courage when I was afraid of doing what I knew that I was capable of.
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Amen! I am so resistant to change and taking risks. I like knowing I’m in control of what I’m doing and the outcomes. Can’t imagine letting all that be decided by someone other than myself!
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I thank God for surrounding me with people that both understand and know how to coax me into less fear. The fear doesn’t leave, but their love and God’s strength get me through it.
Thank you so very much for stopping by and for commenting.
Bless you lots,
Easter
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It is so true…I also dont like to change things around me a lot…I use same mobile same purse same shoes until its broken and if I have to change it I do need assurance from my loved ones…I dont even like to change my side in bed 🙂
And I must say…you are very beautiful…
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🙂 Thank you for your kind compliment. This photo is from a few years back and after quite a few hospital stays since then, I’ve aged and don’t feel as beautiful. The ones on my profile and Gravitars are more recent.
I know what you mean about purse, etc.. I actually have a lot of clothes, but wear the same ones all the time because I feel comfortable in them. I need to have either my daughter, step-daughter or boyfriend with me to buy new ones! I am THAT anxious about it! (And the new purse that I got had to have daughter with me then, too!)
Bless you lots.. comfort zones are so reassuring, but sometimes discovering who we are outside of this can be a good thing, too.
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I can understand what your are talking about…and believe me…you still look so beautiful and I can imagine your younger self… 🙂
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🙂 Thank you.. there are many pictures in a slide show called “family” from a few days ago. Shows me with my family through the decades, less of me and more of them, but I am still quite present.
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Would definately check it out… 🙂
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🙂 Only if you’d like to see more. Please don’t unless you have a lot of free time!
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I am so very sorry I had meant to include you in today’s round-up – I was at the mall this evening and remembered and almost jumped out of my skin. So very very sorry. I will edit immediately. Please forgive me as I had just slept a few hours this morning and have a kidney stone.
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Aawww…Easter thank you so much…I am so glad and honored 🙂
Honestly…I read the post just like that, I was not even expecting my name on it…when I read your message I was confused that what are you talking about…but now I understood the message 🙂
Thank you so much…you are a darling ❤
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I am so happy that I remembered as I was in line. I am glad that you’re happy as well it is been nice getting to know you a little and I’ve enjoyed especially your photography. 😊
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Thank you so much Easter 🙂 …you are wonderful
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🙂 My pleasure!
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And I am sorry for kidney stone…but dont worry I am sure you will get fine with time…my dad is also suffering from this problem since years and he is doing great…I am sure you will get better… 🙂
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I feel for your father. I get them all the time also for the last 10 years. I’ve ended up with several infections from them and hospitalized several times unfortunately. I’m hoping this one I have right now will pass more quickly than later. Time will tell. Either way better to have kidney stones and something that can be much more dangerous to our lives. I pray your father is well and that he gets less stones. 😇
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Dont worry…you will get rid of that stone very soon…drink loads of water…take care 🙂
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🙂 Thank you
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Interesting view “when you have to try a new medical procedure” I try my very best to stay away from the medics, asking God for the answers instead. I find the answers He gives fascinating!AND my health improves too!
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🙂 I am glad. I’ve had a lot of God’s help with my health too, but there have been times that I’ve needed to get immediate help (for septic infections and once failing organs) from kidney stones. I pray, but I have found that sometimes, the hospital stays have also been God-ordained in that there are always people that either touch my life or that I know God speaks to when I meet them.
I would love for it all to just leave through prayer, as Jesus said “it is finished”, yet, if I do end up with more stays, I know that God is with me there too 🙂
Bless you lots and may God keep your health and joy ever abundantly blessed.
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Oh, I can so relate… I am taking “baby steps” to move beyond my comfort zones — It is so nice to learn that I am not alone!!
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🙂 As I am learning from the responses on my post, that we are far from alone! There are so many that just don’t like to step out of their comfort zone!
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My feling is that most bloggers are introverts, that is what draws us to blogging, the ery fact that we don’t have to meet one another, but can have fulfilling relationships and discussions via the keyboard. 🙂
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Yes, there is community without having to step out of our “comfort zone” 😉 You are so right.
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I might be nervous, I might be scared but I try as long as it doesn’t include be up high. Bungee jumping never.
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Funny, I never had a fear of heights, either. Until I got pregnant. I can fly, but if I am high in a building, I faint if I look down. So weird. Holding hands does not help in this situation!
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I have always had fear of height.
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It is difficult to deal with.. I remember a colleague of mine was so afraid that he took two Gravol before the flight and slept the whole time.
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That would be me. 🙂
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Hope that some day you can overcome your fear enough to try flying.. it is awesome!
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So I’ve heard. lol
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🙂 If not in this life, you will see the heavens.. from Heaven!
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I understand what you mean. Risks can be difficult to take- but the reward is often priceless. Sending love xo
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🙂 Thanks so much Christy.. I know that I may be put to the test some day and have to speak in front of others, but I will make it with those I love right in front of me if I do.
Thank you for your sweetness and encouragement ❤ Love right back
E
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Beautiful photo and bio!
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🙂 Thank you so much!
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I’m not big on change–but when I’m forced into it, I’m usually glad.
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🌸 it takes a lot to force me into trying something new sometimes I’m glad sometimes I’m not.
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Well change takes effort–God usually has to drag me, kicking and hollering all the way!
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Lol – funny picture in my head now! 😉
Me too!
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Remarkable post… I admire your openess here ( that was certainly a risk Worth taking!)… Thanks for sharing, Cheers, Aquileana 🙂
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